General information only. This article is not medical advice and is not a substitute for care from a licensed professional.
Books will not replace couples therapy, but reading together can give you shared language and something to talk about between sessions. These are widely read titles; we have no affiliation with any author or publisher.
Faith-centered books on marriage
The Meaning of Marriage by Timothy and Kathy Keller explores marriage through a Christian lens. Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas asks how marriage can shape your faith. Boundaries in Marriage by Henry Cloud and John Townsend looks at responsibility and respect between spouses.
Books based on couples therapy research
Created for Connection by Sue Johnson and Kenneth Sanderfer brings emotionally focused therapy to Christian couples. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman and Nan Silver draws on decades of research with couples. Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson explains attachment in everyday language.
On communication and love
The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman remains popular for talking about how each of you gives and receives love. Use it as a starting point for conversation rather than a label.
Using books well
Read a chapter each and talk about one idea, rather than using books to prove a point. If a book stirs up strong feelings or disagreement, bring it to your counselor. Be cautious with any book that excuses control or harm in the name of faith.
When reading isn't enough
If the same arguments keep coming back, or one of you feels hopeless, it is a good time to talk with a counselor. You can find Christian couples therapy near you or online through this directory.